THE CAGE OF HUMAN INATTENTION AS A CLOSED CYCLE
James R. Fisher, Jr., Ph.D.
© July 22, 2014
We get ourselves in situations in which we feel there isn’t
anything we can do to make it better. The
more we try to do something the more we become blind to the reality of the
situation.
We are trying to do something
which, in the nature of the thing, is impossible to extricate ourselves, and therefore
we develop a feeling of chronic frustration.
Chronic frustration is like living in a cage, forever
running around the cage to get out, only staying forever in the cage. When feeling so trapped, we are like the gerbil on the wheel in the cage, running
faster and faster and going nowhere.
In modern parlance since the 1970s, we have called this
being in the "rat race," or the everlasting cycle in pursuit of one end, of one’s
own end, going around and around afraid to stop, to take a “time out,” or to abandon
the wheel.
The most acceptable way to escape the wheel and the "rat race" has been euphemistically called "burn out," or burning the candle at both ends until there is no longer any wick.
The least acceptable way is to abandon one's career purposely, emphatically and dramatically.
We called such people in the 1970s who did this as “drop outs,” and not necessarily in charitable terms. Yours truly was such a drop out.
So, how do you get out?
That is the wrong question.
What
has to be understood is that there is a trap only if someone can admit to him
or herself that they feel trapped, and being so trapped is no longer
acceptable. It is the acknowledgement that we are the observer as well as the observed when it comes to our person, a total entity within ourselves, a corporate body, if you well, with capability of executing personal and professional change irrespective of what others might think or approve of or not.
I was in my mid-thirties in
the upper 1 percent of earners, and resigned my executive position although
married and the father of four pre-teenage children with no other income than what I had saved, which was modest.
What did I do? I took
a two-year sabbatical, read books, played tennis, and wrote one, and when I was
nearly broke went back to school, full time for six years to earn a Ph.D. in
social & industrial psychology, totally abandoning my training in chemistry
and engineering and management.
Subsequently, a career developed in consulting, working as part time adjunct professor, then as an organizational development (OD) psychologist, promoted to executive status with this same hi-tech company, retiring again in my 50s to write books.
I share this with you because you can see it has a consistency, if however not forced. It found me ending up where I would have liked to have gone from the beginning, but didn't believe I could afford to. That said my income has been modest compared to those years prior to my first retirement.
Do I have any regrets? Absolutely none! I'm where I am supposed to be.
The key to getting out is first embracing the feelings and
limitations of bondage. When you say to
yourself, “I am trapped. I cannot get
out of this,” you are describing the trap precisely and the condition of your
freedom.
When you discover the present flow of thought,or the way it
is, and then couple that with the existing flow of experience, you run into your chronic
frustration.
Chronic frustration is the cage you have
created. It is no trap. You are the process. By design or default, by the choices you have
made, you are precisely where you expected to be.
This is not happening to you. This
is “you.” You’re not its victim, but its
designer. It is you.
So, instead of asking, “How do I get out of this,” the
question simply disappears. You step out
of the cage and move on, as I did.
I have written a book about this, which is to be published soon on Amazon’s Kindle titled, "WHO PUT YOU IN THE CAGE?”
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