Why Read
Self-Confidence?
James
R. Fisher, Jr., Ph.D.
©
November 12, 2015
REFERENCE:
This
is an essay that will precede the showing of my latest book, Self-Confidence: The Illusive Key to Health,
Happiness & Emotional Survival. The
book is to be published in the Kindle Library of www.amazon.com
in late November 2015. This is my
seventeenth book
Self-Confidence
is about being
in charge, taking control of one’s life.
It is not about how to win friends and influence others, but how to have
that cache over oneself.
Self-Confidence is a mindset, not a ballyhooed coping
mechanism. In other words, this is a different
perspective than the reader is likely to be familiar.
There
is an excess of books on how to have “power” and/or “influence” over others,
but an embarrassing shortage of books on how to have that over oneself.
Such
promises are empty if one is not in charge, has not taken control, is not
comfortable in one’s own skin. Moreover,
the promise of “human potential,” which is another catch phrase, has little
weight if one is not a happy camper.
Science
and technology have made the individual essentially an emotional bystander as
if a laboratory specimen in an experimental maze. Condensed to analytics and algorithms by
economists and psychologists, the individual has become basically a collection of
data or reduced to a set of numbers to be probed and bombarded with subliminal
stimuli.
We
know this in our bones, but don’t know what to do about it. Unwittingly, we have developed a herd
mentality to the corporate mantra of “progress” at the expense of our internal governor
of self-direction and control.
We
have lost our moral compass and our way, and for this, we are not happy
campers.
“We
have lost touch with touch.” We have alienated ourselves from
ourselves as individuals in the most intimate ways. We have become an imitation of our authentic
self at the heavy cost of stability and emotional survival.
Self-Confidence
deals with this artificial
construct so that we can ride the tide of the good times and the bad times with
confidence as we understand our situation and circumstances.
With
Self-Confidence, self-assurance enables us to make good choices, and to understand
others when they fail to do the same. We
are able to lead as well as prevail. That is the mindset of Self-Confidence.
With
intrinsic self-awareness, the cognitive mind is now married to the intuitive
mind in a common purpose moving past the conceit of a cognitive bias that attempts
to solve problems only with the rational mind to embrace the intuitive or
conceptual mind.
Indeed,
with Self-Confidence, we can change
the daily headlines of print and electronic network news to an abundance of positive
stories and experiences.
The
intuitive mind is prominent in Self-Confidence
with its preference for cooperation as the perfect foil to the competitive combative
cognitive mind. With this, there is now room
for our spiritual or non-quantitative side.
That
said these are dangerous times. We see
this as we go blindly forward with anachronistic tools designed for another
time along with atavistic thinking. Danger
is palpable. We can encounter it by merely
stepping out of the safety of our home.
It is a danger, however, we are equipped to handle but seemingly unaware.
We
have a protective shield. It is our
reptilian brain that has been with us since the dawn of the Cro-Magnon
man. What is it?
It
is the feeling we have being around certain people or in the climate of
pressing danger. Feelings calibrate a
threatening situation long before the cognitive mind is engaged.
Feelings
trigger the prehensile reptilian brain to generate in a split second the
appropriate response to personal discomfiture or a challenging physical situation. The
Fisher Paradigm©™ is presented here to
illustrate how this mechanism works daily in everyone’s life.
We
all experience puzzling and contradictory moments. The inclination is to wonder after the fact
how we have survived such moments. Often,
we think it is luck when it is the unconscious -- the reptilian brain --
surfacing as if an angel on our shoulder telling us this is not right, this is not good, this is not what it seems, this
is not for me.
Self-Confidence
focuses on this
unchartered territory in an effort to reverse the incapacitating trend toward the
pathology of normalcy, which finds us
spectators to our own existence. It is
time to pursue our inalienable rights to happiness.
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